Posted in Different Scriptures, Different Thoughts

healing our wounds.

Today I’m writing about a topic that many others have written much better on already. Yet, I still find some people have not heard of these things, and so I write in case I can help even one person hear a new perspective. I am husband to a woman responding to God’s call on her life for pastoral ministry, and I’ve benefitted from her ministry for over 20 years already. I am father to 4 daughters whom God has already spoken through, and who are all completely capable in responding to His Spirit as He empowers and calls them. I serve in a denomination that believes in an egalitarian approach to homes, the church, workplaces, and society. We do not believe men and women are the same in all things. Yet we believe our differences have nothing to do with what qualifies an individual for service in the Kingdom of God. In fact, our differences are often why it’s so important to invite both men and women into places that were for a long time (and in many places still) “off limits” to women.

In the book of Genesis, chapter 1:26-31, we see an egalitarian humanity from the beginning. “..in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.” God blessed them (plural), and said “I have given you (plural)….”. (Yes, chapter 2 offers some distinctions in that creative process, but it reflects the incompleteness of male without female – not a hierarchal structure. Woman was created as a “helper” in 2:18, and that word is the same word used to describe God throughout the Old Testament, which obviously could not mean anything subservient to Man.) But humanity was tempted to turn from fully trusting in God’s provision to discover what they can provide/acquire on their own. This disconnect from trusting in Him as the source of our life and identity naturally brought separation and vulnerability – wounding our relationships with God, one another, and His creation. We see that multi-faceted impact illustrated in Genesis 3:16-19:

  1. Childbirth will be a painful process.
  2. Women will be ruled over by men.
  3. The ground will require intense work to become fruitful.

As these describe the impact of sin on our world, it should be no surprise that followers of Jesus (who came to set us free from sin and it’s impact) are interested in “undoing” these things. We’ve been reconciled to God, and so we join His Kingdom activity in our world today by the healing power of His Holy Spirit.

The first and last of things from this list aren’t usually debated as worth time and effort toward healing. No one declares the goodness of the pain involved in childbirth. Even those who are against medication usually seek practices that mitigate the pain involved. We have people who become doulas, OB’s, or pursue other avenues of serving/improving women’s health because this is an area of woundedness worth seeking to heal. Someone doesn’t even need to believe in God, to recognize childbirth is a painful process, and be motivated to alleviate that pain for themselves or others. Working to support childbirth becomes a process that restores the intended fruitfulness of humanity declared in Genesis 1:28.

We see a similar response to the cursing of the ground. No one declares the goodness of how difficult it can sometimes be to grow a crop fully to harvest. Farming techniques have been implemented for at least 12,000 years that sought to improve the fruitfulness of the soil. At least 4,000 years ago, farmers began rotating crops to improve soil and prevent pests or diseases. Here in Central Illinois, the University of Illinois continues new research in crop science, believing such improvements are good for all humanity. Someone doesn’t even need to believe in God to recognize improving soil and caring for the fruit-bearing nature of our planet is beneficial. Working to support such fruitfulness of the ground becomes a process that restores the intended fruitfulness of humanity declared in Genesis 1:28.

So what has happened in our response to the second impact of this list?

Even in my own life and ministry as someone who believes in an egalitarian approach, I confess my response was largely “I approve of it when it happens, and I’ll support it whenever I’m asked.” But such an approach should also be repented of, as I hope is made clear in the previous paragraphs, as falling short of pursuing healing for our woundedness. When my wife was going to give birth, we investigated methods of pain management and purposefully secured what was needed for her in those moments. As humanity, we aren’t content to plant whatever seeds we find and hope for the best crop. Our farmers work hard and pursue deeper understandings in order to promote a creation that yields more fruit with efficient use of labor.

In the same way then, we followers of Jesus should be those who purposefully seek opportunities to elevate the voices and positions of women. We should actively speak up whenever women are assumed to be inferior simply due to their gender – especially in our marriages, homes, and in places of service to God or His church. I know there are many (myself included) who were raised to believe men are created to inherently be the spiritualhead of the household“. Most who believe this, will still allow for women to serve in that role if the man fails or is idle in his God-given role. I remember hearing a preacher once say God “would even use a woman if He had to, if a man was not fulfilling his calling.” I can’t imagine such a low view of my wife, or my daughters. Paul does use the word “head“, but he also gives descriptions that turn that word upside-down culturally. I believe scripture (and my lived reality in married life) presents a strong case for two adults who constantly strive to serve, submit, and encourage one another to grow in their faith as any two believers would who share life intimately in covenant friendship/love. There is nothing about me biologically that gives me a unique ability to always emerge as “the primary voice” for what God desires or is doing in our home. In the body of Christ, it’s no longer about circumcision or any outwardly visible categories (Galatians 3:27-29). It’s about a heart submitted to Jesus, and living in mutual submission that reveals His Holy Love, and the egalitarian image of “iron sharpening iron”. (Proverbs 27:17)

We see this modeled in the early church, even in a heavily patriarchal culture. As I said, others have written on this far more extensively than I can here. What I wanted to accomplish here was to highlight the “why” behind it’s importance.

Because it’s not simply “a good thing to do”, or “a better perspective” when the choice falls in our lap. It’s worth pursuing and working toward! It’s actually a foundational way that we join the healing work of Jesus Christ in a world impacted by sin. It’s one of the ways we are faithful to the gospel. Someone doesn’t even need to believe in God to recognize improving the equality of women and men together is beneficial. Working to support such mutual submission of both genders to each other and to God becomes a process that restores the intended fruitfulness of humanity declared in Genesis 1:28.

As we do so, together in Jesus, we will continue rediscovering the “very good” of His desires for creation…

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a humbling season

With new “political seasons” starting pretty much weekly at this point, it’s always a good reminder for us to take a deep, slow breath. Unplug from the barrage of posts telling us what we should think about who. Locally, our church has been reminded recently that disciples of Jesus (especially in our political contexts) should be regularly growing in both hope and humility. As Paul left Ephesus in Acts 18:21, he obviously had hope in God using Priscilla & Aquila for the ministry there, but also had humility enough to know it didn’t depend on him staying to sustain the work.

Yes, we want to be those who engage the world with hope. Yes, we want to participate in justice coming, love transforming, and healing wounds both personal and systemic. But we are limited beings. At the end of our abilities, the moments where we have to leave, turn off the lights, or go to bed – we purposefully lay it at the feet of God – who has it all in His hands already. Some of us, without realizing it, believe that we cannot do what we see Paul doing here. News feeds tell us we have to stay plugged in for updates at any moment. Our push notifications draw us constantly out of being physically present with others in order to discover new details about something not in the room with us. We feel like unplugging from all these things might convey that we don’t care enough. We’ve been told to turn away from anything we care about, even for rest, is a betrayal. We feel like – if we don’t make a public statement, or send an email about every topic we care about – the important thing that should happen or be known might not happen or be known.

Here’s an important thing to tell yourself: I am not God. (say that with me)
You know what that means? We can unplug, and probably should often. We don’t have to comment on everything, to show others we know it all. You know what knowing it all is called? “Omniscient.” You know who is omniscient? God. We don’t have to have a presence on all the different apps – you know what that’s called? Omnipresence. You know who is omnipresent? God. You are not God. (say it again if needed) The more we feel like we need to know all things and be in all places, the more we are trying to be God.

Now this doesn’t mean we don’t care. We’re not stoics, who believe all things are predetermined and so we just do the best we can. We’re also not hippies that sing “If it’s meant to be, it’ll be, it’ll be.” (Sorry not sorry, Bebe.) Just like Paul, we dedicate ourselves to the task. We vote and get involved however we’re able to live out the prayers we offer. We sacrificially offer the resources available to us. We empower and trust others to do their part of the work that is much bigger than us.

Paul does end up coming back to Ephesus, by the way. You know how he gets there? It’s not by a magical tornado labeled “Will of God”. He chooses to travel there, and as we can read (Acts 19), he stays quite a while. Because he actually desires to be there. He leaves Ephesus in Acts 18:21 not saying “whatever happens, happens”. Saying “if God wills it” confesses that even in his deepest desires, he is still a limited being. Saying “if God wills it” does not abdicate our response-ability, but humbly confesses our limited nature. We do what we can, but we daily lay all things in the hands of our God who is working to accomplish His will.

There is peace found in this practice, worth incorporating such “laying things down” into our daily lives. But we may have to stop consuming new things long enough to do so…

ps. If you’re willing, make plans to join us & and entire Free Methodist Church USA as we pursue a month of Prayer and Fasting throughout September 2024. Check out their website to learn more!

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fatherhood.

I’m thankful for tiny hearts and their natural inclination toward being loved.

I’m humbled to recognize my tiny heart has been inclined toward the Father’s Love, even in moments I am least aware.

I’m challenged by the seasons of parenting, and how our children incline themselves toward our love in different ways, each according to season. So often I’d rather give them the love I enjoy giving, rather than the love they’re seeking in that moment.

I’m thankful for the ways we are each pursued by the Father’s Love.

I’m in awe of the tender vulnerability shown in our creator becoming one of these tiny hearts, naturally inclined toward being loved by His own human parents.

I’m honest enough to know that I’m imperfect as a father, and I’ve not shown the love my children have needed every time they’ve needed it. I’m thankful for their grace.

I believe I have this in common with Joseph, meaning Jesus has experienced the wound of not being loved well at times. Our God knows our pain. He chose to experience it purposefully, even after seeing what humanity was capable of.

Even when Jesus was being loved imperfectly by His earthly father, it was part of His heavenly Father revealing love to all humanity – which now included Him. This offers an amazing foundation for Jesus to respond in His woundedness, as one who knows He is loved.

We know nothing less of ourselves.

And so again, I am thankful.

Tiny hearts – may we continue to lean in toward the Love we have always needed, and always known.

Happy Father’s Day.