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hairy humility…

We both knew God wanted her to go.  It would be a big step for her personally, but also meant connecting the story of our family with a larger story of God’s love for His children.  Planting seeds for family involvement in something larger than our household that will continue as our children grow.

We were in the midst of trying to sell our house, and our 3 daughters were all 4 and under.  But we knew it was important for my wife to travel with our church missions team to the Philippines last March.  One thing I’ve loved about my wife ever since we first met – was her heart for the quietly overlooked.  When my first response might be to stand on a soapbox and yell for a group call to action, her first response is to kneel down, and be the loving presence needed herself.  I continue to learn from her example. 🙂

Surprisingly, however, the thought of my wife leaving for a couple weeks didn’t thrill me a ton in some ways.  Thankfully, my parents could come down and help for a week.  I could survive, even though the distance and time difference and safety of my better half would keep me from sleeping much at all that week.  I felt as if I was on a “holy mission” of fatherhood and husbandry.  By keeping our kids healthy (or at least fed) and being ready to show the house to a prospective buyer in a moments notice – I was serving God.

So what was one of the big things that got to me?  The place where I felt the most inadequate and unable to provide what my little angels needed?  You probably already guessed it – their hair.  Beyond washing it, and combing it out – I still have no clue what I’m doing.  And my kids know too.  A month ago, I gave Barbie a lop-sided pony-tail, and my oldest daughter’s eye’s became wide with pride as she yelled, “Daddy, you did it!”, and then to the general audience of our home – “Daddy can do a pony tail!!!”

Nope.  I still can’t.  Heck, I feel like I’m torturing them enough just trying to remove the evil little rubber bands every once in a while to wash their hair.

Sure, I need my wife for amazingly huge things.  Things that are so obvious, we said them to each other in the vows we took.  But the simple, overlooked, quiet needs end up being pretty important sometimes too.

We need God for some pretty huge reasons.  Reasons so obvious, we teach them in Sunday School.  They’re praught (past tense of “preach”) about on a weekly basis.  Books are written on them.  But to each of us, there is something unique and humblingly small…that reveals just how intricately we’ve been wired/created to exist with our creator.  A need we have that is beautifully our own.  And He is more than able to meet that need even now, if we’ll slow down…and draw near…

Philippians 4:19 “And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.”

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keep your tongue.

It was late high school, and I was helping lead the children’s choir of the local Nazarene Church.  We were on stage, and altogether calling on the congregation to stand and sing a song with us, “Keep your tongue from evil, keep your tongue.”  The fun part of the song is that you’re supposed to sing it while holding your tongue, which makes all sorts of fun noises possible with a large group. 🙂

In my fierce days as a teenage “Jesus Freak”, the phrase simply meant things like “don’t cuss”, or “don’t say God in inappropriate ways”.  Since then, I’ve learned the power of words go far beyond that, both in giving life, and bringing death.

“but no one can tame the tongue—a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless the Lord and Father, and with it we curse those who are made in the likeness of God. From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this ought not to be so.” James 3:8-10

In the beginning, God spoke.  From those words, all of creation came into being.  We’ve been created in the image of that God.  Sure, we can’t materialize entire universes from the voids of chaos – but we can sure do great, and horrible things with words.  As parents, we are reminded of this daily.

It doesn’t take much.  A brief moment of necessary correction, even spoken with a soft loving voice.  Such a moment sends our 2 year old cowering in shame and (sometimes feigned) grief.  She does not want to disappoint mommy and daddy.  On the other hand, one simple smile combined with a word or two of genuine pride or encouragement, and our little girls are beaming brighter than a sunrise in a house of mirrors.

Words are powerful.  James recognized this, and urged any who would listen.  We can join with our creator in speaking words than bring light from darkness, life where there was none, and beauty/purpose where there was chaos.  If we do, it impacts our entire being.  But on the same token, we must be of one tongue.  Just as a salt spring cannot produce fresh water (v.12), a tongue that brings cursing cannot also be praising God.

Sometimes the last place we put this into practice, is in the home.  We’re careful with our words in public.  At work.  Among friends.  Even among extended family.  But often, home is where we grow comfortable enough to say just about anything.  When in reality, home is the very first place we need to be keeping our tongue trained on righteousness.  Speaking words of Love.  Words that bring and encourage life and light.  Grace, and forgiveness.  Beauty, and creativity.

May God be with us this week, as we focus on having one tongue – beginning in the home.  After all, many of us are literally teaching the next generation how to speak…

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peaceful tension

The Lord over all creation, coming as a fragile baby.  The being to whom all forms of economy must submit, arriving impoverished according to each.  He was 100% human, and yet 100% divine.  His Truth so vast and containing all mysteries beyond our comprehension – and yet offered as the good news to all who would receive it.

Tension is something we don’t often live peaceably with.  I’m not a great one to speak, as my wife could testify to.  I feel tension enough to build up a small sweat when the cups are out of line in the kitchen cupboard.  When we experience tension, our natural response is to do something to alleviate what is out of line.  We cannot often hold two things in tension for very long, before the burden literally becomes too heavy for us to bear.

Yet, embodied tension seems to be the very way God comes to us in Christ Jesus.  It’s beyond our comprehension.  Jesus comes as Lord over all things, and yet it is not by His strength that the Kingdom is coming – but rather, his weakness.  At least by any measures of power we’re familiar with.  God lets down his guard, is completely vulnerable, and yet infinitely compelling.

He lives a life sourced in, and directed toward – God.  He even declares toward the end of his time on earth, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me.” (Matthew 28:18b)  He doesn’t say “all authority will be given at some point down the road, so try your best to do what’s right and eventually I’ll come join you.”  ALL authority in heaven AND on earth!  Jesus is Lord over all things NOW.  Yet, even in the midst of Christmas, if we allow ourselves to be honest….if we don’t put our holiday blinders on…

It doesn’t always seem like it.

People are killing people.  Sons and daughters of God are dying because of hunger and thirst, while their brothers and sisters decide whether to get “Ranch” or “Cheddar” flavored chips, and turning down water for carbonated options.  Human beings that are broken and sick are being denied medical care, while others are suing for millions over a bruise they acquired after slipping on a wet floor.  Families will celebrate Christmas, thankful for all the time they get to spend together – and as part of the celebration they’ll give each other ways to be distracted from each other throughout the year ahead.

This is the world Jesus is Lord over even today?  Already?  Really??

As parents who want to announce that same truth to our children, that’s not always an easy pill to swallow.  Especially if we’re the ones struck by a situation that seems awfully far from in the control of Jesus.

But every day, His Lordship is declared in small, human-shaped ways.  Every week groups of people are growing more and more aware of how the Kingdom is lived out.  Grace is offered. Sacrificial Love happens.  Strangers are made welcome.  The broken are made whole.  Just as the Christ child comes quietly and humbly onto the scene, so we are invited to speak in still, small voices – “Jesus is Lord”.

It’s true, God loved us enough to let His image-bearers decide to make their own choices.  As generations have come and gone, ignoring their creator, this world has continued to feel it’s impact.  That is why Christ has come, and established His Lordship.  We can now declare, in word and deed, that the crucified and resurrected Jesus is Lord.  Now and already.  Even in the face of unknown tomorrows.  And as we do, we will find ourselves caught up in moments of that Kingdom coming.

What better time to start than now?  Beyond the presents, food, and ambiguous holiday “cheer”….what would it look like for you to declare Christ and His ways as Lord this week?  How might your family be moved to act, and what authority may need to be removed, for Him to take His proper place?

May we be agents of spreading this tension, announcing “Jesus is Lord” to a world that won’t know what to make of that announcement – and yet experiences the peace it brings…