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A post about sports by a guy who doesn’t know much about sports.

In the past weeks (read: years), story after story of NFL players are hitting the spotlight.  Horrible life choices, criminal behavior, and lack of self-control are making the headlines.   Mixed in there, certainly, are some players/teams doing charitable work, or getting in trouble for wearing a shirt that says “Jesus” on it.  In some cases, it seems there’s even a decent man among them.   A few men who deserve to be reformed in prison shouldn’t damn the entire enterprise, nor should a few good guys/moments redeem it.

lionsBut all of the speculation and conversation should demand we take a serious look at how and why we support the NFL as an organization, how we hold those involved accountable, and what we sacrifice in order to be entertained.

As Steve Almond writes in his book, “Against Football: One Fan’s Reluctant Manifesto”, if the NFL were being honest about the risks to new players, as they are drafted they would be required to sign a statement that reads:

“I, ________, the undersigned, am aware that the average age of death of an NFL player is, according to the Players Union, up to two decades shorter than normal life expectancy.  Furthermore, I recognize that playing in the League, even in the absence of formally diagnosed concussions, may cause brain damage leading to the loss of cognitive function, depression, disorientation, and suicidal ideation.”

Even the NFL is finally conceding that around 1/3 of it’s players will experience brain trauma. (NFL says it’s probably lower, brain people say it’s probably higher.)  But even if supporting the NFL didn’t make us accomplices to such injury, what about the financial figures?

Almond shares, “In 1948, nearly 9/10 of the revenue earned by the NFL’s best team, the Philadelphia Eagles, came from ticket sales.  The share from radio/TV rights was 3%.  Hardcore fans kept the league afloat, the ones who braved stadiums so cold that players sat bundled in hay to keep warm on the sidelines.  This season, the NFL will receive $5 BILLION in TV rights alone, nearly half its total revenue, and 3x more than MLB earns.”

So here we have one organization, the NFL, that makes over $10 BILLION dollars annually.  Surely, they pour a lot of that good back into their communities, right?  After all, we see promotional pictures of teams visiting the sick/elderly/children/etc. all the time.  Unfortunately, things like this are happening only AFTER tax-payers from those cities have paid hundreds of millions of dollars to provide facilities for their local team to keep playing.  And yes, you read that article right…..even after being largely funded BY those taxpayers, local franchises pay no taxes themselves.

Now football has done a lot of good for people.  Giving people a place where they can use some of their strength and grit in a way our “tech-savvy” world doesn’t have many outlets for.  Calling all ages to enjoy the passion of a body at play.  The long distance throw/catch that seemed to be impossible.  The dodging of defenders all the way down the field as the crowd stands and cheers.  In a moment of remembering, Almond recounts, “Elway ran around like crazy until he spotted something nobody else did, a path to redemption where others saw only ruin.  In the moment of greatest peril, he summoned poise.  In the midst of entropy, he found order.  We all want to find that magic within ourselves.  And failing that, we want to watch as someone else does.”

My question to football fans is, how will we call for a change?  There’s obviously something very good here.  Something that taps into the heart of millions of fans.  But somewhere along the line, we started pretending we didn’t notice the impact it was having on our culture.  We cannot pretend anymore that the injuries aren’t happening…both on and off the field.  Lives are being lost and broken.  We cannot pretend anymore that the financial set up, with its’ heavy burden on cities already suffering with hungry and homeless, is right.  How will we be voices for change, calling for the redemption of a sport we love?

In a recent interview with Mark Edmunson, author of “Why Football Matters“, he talked about viewing NFL players as “heroes”, and mentioned we have a severe lack of heroes in most realms of our world today.  It’d be great if an NFL player did something truly heroic, like demanding some of the issues above were addressed (actually addressed, not simply glazed over as injuries have been for many years).  But as a parent, it definitely made me think consciously about helping my daughters find “heroes” for their own lives.  People who are helping the Kingdom of God to break through.  People who are bringing justice, offering grace, building with love, and sharing the Hope of redemption in the dark corners of our world.  My guess is, it won’t be someone on the astro-turf.  Or, more painful to admit, on the ice…

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how to change the world.

I don’t have a chart on which to give myself a “Gold Star” at the end of each day, and yet it’s something I try to do as often as possible.   I make it a goal to tell each of my daughters, one of their tasks that has already begun, is to change the world.  Usually this comes after a prayer about “God’s love filling our hearts”, or a compliment on how I see the Love of God in their lives.  I admit, it doesn’t happen every day.  But I do think it happens often enough that they’re connecting the dots.

Who they are, and what God is doing in their life, is meant to change the world.  Not someday, when they get big/popular/famous/rich enough.  But right now, through simple acts of humility, love, forgiveness, charity, grace, friendship, sacrifice, etc.

I’ll be honest: when I opened this window to write today, I was preparing to tackle a different issue.  There was a megachurch, that most of us probably really enjoy the fruit of, that also has quite a bit of fruit that doesn’t taste like Jesus.  I wanted to write a post, pointing out their problems, and believing that might encourage us to “do it right”.  But I think I’d rather spend more time pointing out my daughters, and have you be encouraged to change the world with them.

It’s not difficult, and not for only a few.  It’s an invitation we’ve all been offered in scripture and in relationship to Jesus.  And I think it looks like this:

1. Love. Not warm fuzzy, smiles all the time, and marshmallow bunnies here.  I mean real love.  Love that is always there, even when there’s disagreement.  Love that will speak Truth from a God we believe to be the source of all love.  Love that sits by you even when you stink.  Love that is willing to be vulnerable, even if it knows you might take advantage of it.  (think Jesus, not a woman in an unhealthy relationship with a controlling boyfriend)  We discover what love looks like with each of our children, and aim to show it/reinforce it whether it’s been a great day, or incredibly stressful/tense.  We help them to see what love might look like, even in the face of “friends” who don’t have their best interests in mind.

2. Simple.  It doesn’t take thousands of people, bright lights, loud music, and high emotions to change a city or the world.  It takes simple acts that go outside the normal routines of life.  Calling people to “pause” and consider the fact that they’re loved or valued by you, because they’re loved and valued by God.  Helping two sides of a conflict to see beyond their own desires to win, and connecting them to the humanity on the other side of the issue.  We invite our children to join us in tasks of communicating love and value to others.  Even as simple as praying for someone before bed, or giving up that bed when they come to visit.courage

3. Faithful.  In a world guided by “what feels right”, we change the world when we are faithful.  To a family, to a church body, to a spouse, to a friend.  When we make a commitment, there’s a higher purpose to that covenant.  God is revealed when His people go out into a world swayed by every new report/feeling, and stand firmly as followers of Christ, who have peace enough to Trust Him with tomorrow.  We call our children to be aware of what commitments we make as a family, and help honor them.

4. Self-less.  Even as I write this, I’ve received the latest ad for “The Mockingjay – Part 1”.  A great story, for sure.  The tagline even reads, “The courage of one will change the world.”  But I’m not putting the hope of tomorrow on my daughters strapping up for a battle-to-the-death against the evil in our world.  I’m inviting them to realize “The Love of One HAS changed the world.”  Forever.  That as we give up our appetites and self-serving inclinations, and instead love our neighbors AND our enemies – we continue in small part what Jesus began and promises to bring to completion.  We invite our children to envision regularly how they might put others and Christ first….even if mommy and daddy could still use practice in this area. (admittedly daddy more than mommy) 🙂

5. Etc.  I realize this is not an exhaustive list.  Nor do I sprinkle scripture throughout it like a really good blogger or pastor should.  Nevertheless….there’s some good stuff in here.  I should probably read it again sometime down the road….:)

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bedtime prayers.

Sometimes we can spend a few minutes in prayer, and move straight into our bedtime story without anything seemingly significant happening or being said.  On those nights, we believe the significant “thing” is simply the faithful prayers, and routines/rhythms of a home that values coming before God together.  Even when parts of the prayer seem rote and automatic, we make time and space available for hearts and minds to be honest before each other and before God.

We confess: there are nights this doesn’t happen.   (gasp)  We’re not too worried about forcing a child who was sleeping in the van on the way home to wake up and have a prayer time.  Or when mommy & daddy are wiped from a long hard day, we’ve been known to skip right to hugs and “good nights”.  But more oft than not, the days close with a pause for prayer and conversation about what God is doing in our hearts and lives.  If it does seem like the prayers become more repeating a few quick things without much pause for thought, we mix it up.  Some nights we ask each daughter individually what’s on her heart and mind, and then a parent will summarize all of these things in one family prayer.

Our church is beginning another emphasis on prayer right now as a reminder.  I’ve written before about the helpful reminder found in “7-5-2”.  It’s not a magic formula, and prayer does not guarantee a healthy family/home.  But prayer brings together hearts and minds in the presence of God, and when that’s done on a regular basis….it sure offers a great place for His Love and our relationships to grow.

Here’s a short video, where my hidden iPhone camera catches the unpolished prayers of our 5 and 6 year olds. It may help to know that we are adopting a daughter from Africa currently, our church is praying for a young woman named Mollie who’s been bed-bound for a while now, and our extended family were on their way to visit us that weekend…