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Open Letter to DRC President Joseph Kabila

Posted on October 15, 2014October 15, 2014 by Wick

Your Excellency,

We don’t know each other. I could never understand all that you’ve been through, or all the weight that you currently carry as leader of the Democratic Republic of the Congo. You and I have both made mistakes. Because of your position and influence, when you make a mistake, its’ impact is large. But we are both fallible. Our strength comes not as we deny this, but as we humble ourselves and accept help/guidance from others. As Desmond Tutu said,

“..You can’t exist as a human being in isolation. It speaks about our interconnectedness. You can’t be human all by yourself, and when you have this quality – Ubuntu – you are known for your generosity. We think of ourselves far too frequently as just individuals, separated from one another, whereas you are connected and what you do affects the whole World. When you do well, it spreads out; it is for the whole of humanity.”

I’ll be honest, I have a selfish motivation even in writing to you. My family is pursuing an adoption of a child from the DRC that began years ago. We would love to bring her home. But even as I write this, there are families who are responding to your country and your authority with disrespect and malice. I want to apologize for their actions and their words. In regards to international adoption, we must not sacrifice the future protection of children and sustainable family-life for immediate homecomings of those being processed. I understand that you and many others would be upset by what seems to be a lack of respect. It seems many are more interested in forcing or coercing your hand to “bring home” children, rather than offer whatever assistance/wisdom we can toward reforming the systems in place for taking care of the future generations of Congolese. The “best case scenario” is not to figure out how to do adoptions well. The “best case scenario” involves healing the land, people, and systems so that the DRC can flourish and be the beautiful nation and people it has the potential to be.

I know you have a lot on your plate. Even as great things are accomplished for women’s rights in the Senate and your soccer team is competing, MONUSCO looks toward new action against the FDLR. The conflict that continues in Eastern Congo is only a small part of the struggle your people have faced for over half a century, and even longer. As so many in the world have valued their own desires, and sought to fill their own bank accounts and resources, the people of your nation were not only trampled on and stolen from, but they were learning a way of existence. The way of existence that declares, “I look out for myself, no one else.” Generations have come and built lives on this approach, and so there has been war, rape, murder, and worse. Children are not allowed to be children, as parents are forced to sacrifice them to survive. When children cannot trust their parents, there cannot be family. When “family” is lost, so too are communities and eventually, nations.

I don’t speak all of these things from a nation that “has it all correct”. As you have probably seen, the United States has its’ own struggles. We too have built on generations declaring “I look out for myself, no one else.” Our conflict may not be as visible, but it is having an impact on “family”, and therefore also, our nation. From what I’ve read, you believe in Jesus Christ and in the Bible as the Word of God. I’m appealing to you, therefore, not as someone who has much to offer you. But as a brother in Christ.

Christ calls us to humble ourselves, to admit our faults and seek redemption. As I began my letter I pointed out that when you make a mistake, the impact is large because of your power and position. The opposite can also be true! When you humble yourself and seek the redemption of what God intends for you and for your nation – it has incredible potential to transform the world both now and for the future!! You’re in a unique position right now to bring reform, and not only speak words but put into action, plans and resources to transform and protect the future children of the DRC. Imagine a future where your daughter, Sifa, whose name means “reputation/praise”, can proudly share who her father was, and point out the legacy you helped leave behind. That even though you made mistakes when you were young and seeking power in a country where everyone was doing the same thing – you came to a point where you realized those errors, and were transformed. That is the Good news of the Gospel message. Lives like yours and mine, Jesus came to bring freedom from our sin, and redemption/new life through us for the sake of the world!

I know many voices are calling simply for you to “open the doors” and allow adopted children to go home. As beautiful as that would be for so many families, it would also land your nation right where it was when this all began. There is corruption, and changes need to happen. You’ve already stated that publicly, but nothing concrete has been seen yet. I encourage you, to put together a team to examine and reform the adoption process in the DRC. Invite leaders from several nations where families are thriving, and figure out a long-term plan for the future of your people in the context of a global community. Figure out what investments are being made in the economy of your nation, and what those investors are seeking to gain. You have hundreds of families from all over the world, waiting to be forever connected with the DRC through their children! What a great resource to tap into, and to invite into life-long relationships with! As the country eventually opens, invite these parents to stay connected, and encourage partnerships with the local communities their children are adopted from. Help develop structures and accountability so that such partnerships remain healthy and not yet another “I’ll get mine” enterprise. Set a goal, not of simply serving the orphaned of today, but of healing the families and communities of your nation so that if and when orphans exist – the community and resources are there to provide homes and families for those children.

Allow your people to experience the beginning of needed healing, by publicly declaring you will not alter the constitution or seek another term in office. Your country needs more than you, and more than any individual leader has to offer. Lead them into an existence that declares “Ubuntu” once again. Help them find a leader who can guide them into this next season of healing and redemption of family.

And someday, when you’re no longer carrying the weight and responsibility you carry, and you have some free time, I’d love to meet you. To have my daughters meet yours. To have our wives drink tea together. To sing together, a song of worship to the God who offers to transform us both for the sake of a world that needs us to bear His image.

Thanks for your time,

I’ll admit, this is probably a bit starry-eyed and will probably never be read by the President of the DRC….but it helps me to pray better. Not simply for my daughter, whom I hope to hold someday. But for her friends, her commune, her nation, and the future of the DRC that Jesus declares there is hope for. And I believe Him…

Child Sacrifice

Posted on October 10, 2014 by Wick

“Then God said, “Take your son, your only son, whom you love—Isaac—and go to the region of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on a mountain I will show you.” – Genesis 22:2

This was in our family reading yesterday. As I was reading it out loud for my kids to hear, I wondered what sort of thoughts might go through their mind. A daddy was asked by God to sacrifice his son? And he DID it? Well, not completely, but still. He tied up his son, whom he loved, and offered him to God as a sacrifice?

I quickly connected it to something easier to swallow. I asked the kids, “What is something you love a whole lot, that God might ask you to let go of in order to follow Him?” I wondered what might be going through their minds, as they tried to imagine God asking something large in their life to be sacrificed in order to be a part of what God wanted to accomplish.

I remember reading this passage in college. Studying it with my theology friends. Talking about Kierkegaard’s thoughts over coffee, and feeling like we grasped just how audacious these passages of scripture were. Then life took me out of the coffee shop and into the mini-van. It’s so hard to understand Abraham’s response in this passage. It’d be easier if we had a chapter, or at least several verses after verse 2 here. A conversation, or at least open complaint to God from Abraham, of how unjust and difficult it was for him to swallow what God was asking him to do. Instead, the very next verse is about Abraham getting up , saddling his donkey, and telling his son “Let’s go”.

As I was reading the story this week, a thought struck me. Even though I’m not tying my kids up, laying them on an altar, and raising a knife above them….I am still offering my children to God as a sacrifice. As is any family that takes steps in faith toward a path God is calling them to. We spend time in prayer, as parents. We ask God to be with us. We ask God to bless us. We ask God to bless our family, and our home. We ask for Him to bless our children as they grow. But even more than “blessing”, we ask God to use our family for the purposes of His Kingdom. That has nothing to do with how successful our kids might be someday, or what college/career they head toward.

Although that’s definitely a tempting approach to praying for our children. In the popular TV show, “Once Upon a Time”, Snow White and her Beau save their infant from a cursed Kingdom by shoving the baby wrapped in swaddling clothes through a magic portal. This assures their child will escape the current cursed situation, and have a decent chance at a normal and successful life. Every parent faces this temptation. To shield our children from anything God might ask from us in this broken world, and prepare them for “someday” when they’ll be launched into life, ready and strengthened by years of protected existence.

Instead, God calls us to lift our children, and our family/home up onto the stone altar. To faithfully respond to whatever He’s calling us toward, even knowing it will impact them. It may cause suffering. It may mean large amounts of sacrifice. It might mean that after years of praying for God to help us with our adoption, our 8 year old will interrupt prayer time to say, “Dad, why doesn’t God just…you know….DO something?”

In those moments, I feel a little like Abraham carrying his son up the mountain. His son looks at everything they’re carrying, and in a confused moment he asks his father, “..but where is the lamb for the burnt offering?” (v.7) Abraham responds that God will provide. In this similar moment, my daughter needs me to speak with faith into her life as well. It’s hard for me to do, just as I imagine it would’ve (should’ve) been for Abraham. Yet I look into her eyes and say the words, “God will provide.”

He will. He has. He is. Our family is being formed in a crucible of prayer that will and already is, influencing the direction of their lives. These little hearts who are called on every day to think about God’s heart for a broken world that needs healing. These young people who are reminded that just like God wants to use our family – God wants to use them for the sake of the world, also.

But just being honest here? I’m scanning those bushes like crazy, even as I’m tying up my children…