I could list reasons. I could research, and post links to articles about the impact of nature on the human brain. The dangers of living at the pace our world runs. The need to reduce “screen time”. The need to retreat from the noises of city. The need to be reminded of natural beauty, over the manufactured beauty we’re sold daily. Instead, I just want to whet your appetite, and remind you that your family needs some of this. Ours did too. This all took place in less than 24 hours, for less than 50 bucks. Worth it.
Tag: parenting
forts…
I’m not sure why the dots connected the way they did, in my head. Nevertheless, they did. I swelled with pride, and didn’t even know how to communicate it. I gave our 7 year old a giant hug, applauded a bit, and smiled ear to ear. I told our girls I was proud of them.
So what had they done?
They’d built a fort. Without any help from a grown-up. It used several blankets, and covered a good portion of the living room. It also contained an aspect of fort-building even I had never before attempted. Allow me to rewind a bit….
Imagine me as a high schooler. I’m hanging out with a couple of friends, and it’s really late at night. I think we’d decided to pull an all-nighter. I remember it being pretty dark outside, hours most people were sleeping, and we were full of energy. Obviously, it was the best time to build a blanket fort in the living room. His dad came out to sit in a chair and watch us.
That’s right, to watch us. Not to help, but because apparently watching us was more entertaining than any other options available that night. Thinking back, I’m sure he was right. I remember several instances of heavy toys or containers that we’d set on high locations came tumbling down on our heads within the fort.
At least a year ago, maybe more, we were taking a family drive. As a snack, we passed back “Fruit Roll-Ups” to the girls. I guess we didn’t realize our girls had never had one before. Because after hearing the outer packages ripped open, a few moments passed before we heard “Moooooom!? I don’t like these.”
“Really? Why not?”
“Well, they taste good, they’re just reeaalllly chewy!!”
We laughed at ourselves as we realized our daughters didn’t know you’re supposed to unroll the flat fruit, and take out the cellophane wrapper. They’d simply removed the outer paper wrapper, and began to chew it. Needless to say, once the plastic was removed, they enjoyed Fruit Roll-Ups as much as anyone who loves chewing on sugar. Time has passed since then, and obviously they’ve matured a bit in their approach to complicated things like building a fort.
In middle school, we were required to take an elective (ironic, I know) called “PSI” (Problem Solving Instruction). I don’t remember much about it, except that obviously some people aren’t very good at dealing with challenges, and coming up with solutions. It was an easy class, filled with “what if” scenarios, and answering how we would respond to challenges. Maybe the whole joke was that, if you applied to “opt-out” of the class, they allowed you to. I didn’t.
All of that to say…my kids are great problem solvers. They continue to show a growing wisdom (Luke 2:52), and I’m proud of the young woman they’re becoming. When the blanket wouldn’t reach, she tied a scarf on, and tied the other end of the scarf to something heavy. Genius. Next time we go camping, I’m letting her set up the tent…:)
confession: I want to prove God.
For as much as I wasn’t a giant fan of “God’s Not Dead” for reasons we can talk about in person…I will confess I have something in common with the young college student. I have a desire to prove God. It’s not that I want to prove His existence, or even prove to someone that Jesus was divine. It’s not an intellectual debate I want to win. I want to prove to my children, the goodness and faithfulness of God, in the midst of a world where such testimony may be hard to hear behind other noises.
It struck me in a particular way recently, as I was praying for our adoption. You may have something else weighing on your heart. Something your family is praying fervently for. Something you and your children name regularly every night in family prayer time, and the main thing your kids might mention if they’re praying before bed at a friends house. Whatever that thing is, beyond praying for that “thing” itself….as a parent we also find ourselves praying it for the sake of our children. That they will experience God’s hearing of the prayer, and be able to celebrate together as a family when He responds.
So what happens, when that “main family prayer”, becomes the one unanswered? The one a family is left to struggle with. What if our children grow up praying about it, almost as a reflex, but slowly and accidentally learn never to actually receive a response from God on the issue?
In my anxiety and frustration, God calms me down. Hand on my shoulder, tears welling up in his own eyes, He speaks with love. “You and your family are not the beginning, or the center of what I’m up to, Chadwick.” In a moment of humility, He reminds me of where I sat just a few weeks ago, at a Seder dinner with my children. From my own lips, my children heard God’s story as one we are now the continuation of. That His people lived for hundreds of years in slavery, and have faced suffering and death for millenia. That the story of God’s people is one of embracing what it means to suffer in a world that is not yet made right. What it means to not pretend everything is easy or can make sense. Imagine what it would’ve been like for an Israelite parent to teach their children the goodness of God, in the midst of generations of slavery. God calls us to live uncomfortably in a world that idolizes comfort and ease. We are a people who have been crying out to God for thousands of years, and God has been/continues to respond to that cry. He invites us to actively participate in that response as well. Not by denying or avoiding the brokenness of the world – but by how we suffer as those who know God is with us.
His was a reminder – one of the greatest things we do as a parent is to give our children, and younger generations a context for their struggles/doubts. A safe place to express suffering…(any youth pastor who’s heard a teenager lament at a broken relationship can understand this)…and a larger view/context that helps to bring genuine perspective and comfort knowing God is with us even in these moments. Not promising to make everything better for every individual who comes to Him like a genie inside a magic lamp. Yet….not like a removed deity who has nothing to do with the world He set in motion, either.
God is at work. In faithful and world-changing-ly large ways. But also in small, thankful whispers of reminder. We know that His heart is seen being revealed in “Immanuel, which means ‘God with us.'”
All of that to say, be encouraged. Even when it seems our prayers aren’t being responded to. Not because “God’s working it all out to be even better than you would’ve prayed.” But because, God is with us. Always. Has been, and will be. That’s the story we invite our children to live within. That’s the story that invites them to prove God…











