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Changing the world….

One of the biggest ways I invite my daughters regularly to picture themselves in the light of God’s activity in our world is with the phrase, “God wants to fill your heart so much with His love, that it changes the world!”  We regularly paint a picture or tell the current story of God’s purposes in ways that invite our daughters to envision themselves, and understand they are a part of what He’s doing even now.  Yet still, when I see my daughters catch on to it in a simple way…..it’s astounding.

Take last night, for example.

The kids came to hear the final Sunday evening of our church’s series with Ravi Zacharias (Video: Yes, Your Question).  When I say “came to hear”, what I mean is – they came with a backpack of coloring books, crayons, and a few “My Little Pony – Equestrian Girls” dolls as well.  We’d gone to the church gym (Affectionately referred to as the “Family Life Center”) for about 15 minutes to run around and get some energy out.  Then it was back to the pew, to sit quietly as daddy watched the video with the congregation.  They were doing great, even with the usual bumps/page turns/whisper-shrieking due to shoves from a sister.  Then just as the video was beginning, a young man I’d never seen before came into the sanctuary, and quietly took a seat in the pew directly in front of us.  Didnt he know this section was reserved for youth pastors with fidgety kids?

After a few minutes, he turned around and caught my eye.  He introduced himself briefly by name, and I shared mine.  He turned back around to keep watching the video and I figured it was just an odd way of him “getting acquainted” with a new church as a visitor.  A few minutes later he turned back around (Ravi was talking about something important, I’m sure….but I was already distanced because of referreeing a miniature whisper-fest.)  He told me he was here by accident, after running out of gas while coming across town to pick up a friend who was drunk.  He asked if I had any cash for gas.  I honestly didn’t have any money on me, and apologized, but told him if he hung around after the video – perhaps he could talk with our pastor or someone else.

But Sophie, age 6, heard.coins

She knew someone had given her a bunch of quarters for her princess piggy bank at home, and they were still in an envelope in her coloring book bag.  As she held the envelope, she asked me if it’d be okay.  Ruby (our 4 year old) even offered to go with her.  So together, they quietly left our pew, and went forward to his.  Sophie held out the envelope, obviously not quite sure what to say.  She simply said, “Here.”  He greatfully accepted, although you could tell he felt a bit humbled….as I was by even watching this.  She smiled wide, and quickly bounced back to our pew, sister in tow.  He turned around, red-faced, and said “thank you”.  She smiled back, and whispered “you’re welcome”.

The girls had a bathroom break right as the video was ending, and so we didn’t end up going back in.  But later found out someone had also helped him get a bit of gas.   I don’t know if we’ll ever see his face again.  But I hope and pray, that the generosity and heart of my daughter sticks with him.  I believe God’s love was felt by that man in those moments.  I was proud to know my daughter had allowed Him to use her.

I know the world is being changed by my girls already…and I can’t wait to see how God continues to move…

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flex your creative. (a fun post)

She’d done it before, so I probably should have expected it.  But as I held her in my arms, her 4-year-old body curved to match the shape of my lap, her eyes melted my heart as always.  I was caught up in my own little Precious Moment world, savoring her tiny little self being held by me.  She’ll be 5 soon.  As I was enjoying a bit of parental bliss, she began to add to it – looking up at me as if she could offer the world…

“Daddy?”

“Yes, Ruby?”

“You…”  She stalled, and at this my mind raced with all the potential statements she could be about to offer me.  Something that would surely fill my parenting tank with love for the week.  I barely breathed, waiting for the words of love that were about to come.

“You have spider webs in your nose.”

Oh.  I smiled gently, tickled her a bit for being silly, and we moved on from the moment.  But it reminded me – my kids see the world imaginatively without any effort.  Our children see a world of infinite possibilities, believing so much of what they’re told, or what they can imagine in a given context.  We adults?  We see reality.  We dis-believe.  We ask questions.  We cynacize.  We look up into someones nostrils, and see his nosehairs.

But I’m confident, we can see spider webs, if we’re willing.  If we recognize our imaginative degeneration as the poo1problem it is, and work to keep those muscles functioning.  With that in mind, I’d like to offer you an exercise.  It even seems adult-ish.  As I showered the other day, I noticed a shampoo in our bathroom named “Pantene – Ultimate 10”.  I was curious what the “10” referred to, and as I turned it around I realized someone had been very (although limitedly as we’ll soon see) creative in their descriptions about what this poo can do.

So my exercise today is simple, help Pantene out.  They’ve given 10 decent adjectives, but I’m fairly confident we can do better.   That someday, Pantene could sell “Ultimate 100” using the same formula.  No limits!!!  Here are the current adjectives they’ve given:

1. Repair for rough hair                  5. Smoothing                             8. Gentle Cleaning
2. Strength against Damage          6. Moisture                                 9. Manageability
3. Silky Softness                                7. Frizz Control                      10. Detangling
4. Brilliant Shine

I know there are more descriptions that they’ve not captured.  No matter what your poo preference, I’m asking us to join together as parents and grown-ups who want to keep up with the imaginations of the next generation!  Here are just a few of my own:

11. Crazy awesomeness                  12.  Flowery Smelling                    13. Magically Noticeable

What might you add??

Or are you the kind of person who’s okay seeing nose-hairs?

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“Frozen” Cooled…

If you’re like me, you’ve had people fillin’ up your Facebook feed with how incredible this new Disney classic, “Frozen” is.  I hope you haven’t gotten enough yet, because I’ve got a few things to add that you may not have thought of.  It seems Disney knew just how many of us needed to hear a great story about the bond between sisters, how triumph can rise through tragedy, and the importance of God’s creatures in the midst of it all.

It doesn’t hurt that the music itself is catchy too.  Especially one of the most popular tunes (Do you wanna build a snowman?), that is just too good to sing without imagining yourself knocking playfully on your sisters door.  The song also helps drive the action of the movie forward, by revealing how these sisters have an opportunity to become even closer.  Not that it was “great” to see their parents die, but we definitely could use more cartoon images of tragedy becoming transformed into something life-bringing.  In this case, a bond between sisters that many families never experience.  It’s obvious with all the redemptive messages, this story has it’s roots deeeeeply planted in Hans Christian Anderson’s “The Snow Queen“.

Even knowing all of this, I was content to “Let It Go” (pun intended) until this past week I was flooded with likes on this particular post, praising the “subversive nature” of the movie.  I was encouraged by his writing, and decided if there was something connecting our lives to the stories and songs of the movie – then it SHOULD be shared in case it connects with you as well!  As my 3 daughters belt out the words from every song off the soundtrack (of course, we’ve got it!), Frozen-movie-posterit’s obvious there are even more messages in the movie than we see at first glance!  Let’s take a moment, and appreciate, one song at a time, how powerful those messages are:

1. Frozen Heart – A song bursting with sexual equality.  Why else put a song about harvesting ice on a soundtrack for a movie so obviously geared towards young girls?  That’s right, daughters, even YOU can grow up to become ice harvesters, UFC champions, and extreme bikers!  As they swing their imaginary ice equipment to the rhythms of the song, I see a future president being formed…

2. Do You Want to Build a Snowman? – Point started above.  Here Disney has achieved an incredibly artistic balance of tragedy and hope, sprinkled with a bit of sisterly mischief and magic.  My daughters smile as they’re reminded – even when mommy and daddy are otherwise occupied, they have someone to play with!!

3. For the First Time in Forever – I smile as I imagine so many Freshmen in college singing this song in jest as they run down the hall in their dorm.  A proclamation of freedom from the things that used to bind us. Whether it’s controlling forces from outside, or our very own fears and hesitations.  Possibly even a message celebrating freedom from the trappings of sin!  Such a great song for our children to sing!

4. Love is An Open Door – I’m tearing up even thinking about these lyrics.  This song is so obviously a statement about how much an impact love can make.  To transform the life of an orphan.  To change the life of a selfish wanderer.  To make someone realize that so much can be made possible, through the doorway of Love.  Notice the title of the song begins with a capital “L”.  That means this song is talking about Jesus.  Boom.  Even more powerful now.   Sing away, kids!!

5. Let it Go – A song celebrating freedom.  We hold ourselves back, and push ourselves down far too often.  Fear of public speaking is number one?  Who doesn’t need to hear the message of this song?  Especially starting at a young age, our children need to know how incredibly precious their contributions are.  Even Jesus said, “Let the children come.”  This song is a great way for children to begin to internalize their worth, no matter how the world might respond.

6. Reindeers are Better Than People – In breakthrough research, Disney has decided that song is the best way to reveal new findings that yes, in fact, reindeers ARE better than people.  It makes sense.  Have YOU ever been lied to by a reindeer?  Ever seen a reindeer running for a political office?  Point made.

7. In Summer – Yes!!  We should all be so hopeful!  The snowman gets extremely excited about spending time in summer…even though he was made for winter.  We all can dream of places or experiences we’d love to have, and yet feel like we were “created for something less”.  Don’t believe it!  God wants nothing short of the Kingdom of Heaven for us…and we cannot buy the lie that we are doomed to live fallen lives, subject to the impact of sin.

8. For the First Time in Forever (reprise) – A sung dialogue where one sister finally understands her sibling, and offers her loving support.  She’s persistent in her love, even to the point of being chased away by a snow monster named Marshmallow.  It’s a great reminder to our children, that showing love to, and being there for family is worth any risk/effort.

9. Fixer Upper – Here Disney battles the famous myth of the “Perfect guy/girl for me”.  For anyone in a long-term committed relationship, we know that Love is required to endure.  It’s the only foundation for a life together.   Even “a little bit of love” is enough to transform a relationship, and help us to see what God sees…..the heart.  Not requiring that person to change so that we can love them…..but loving them in the direction of a Hope-filled future together.

10. Let it Go – (Demi Lovatto version)  Obviously this song was so incredible, they needed a current pop star with the vocal talent to really cement it as a “Song for the Times”.  You’ll look back on Christmas 2013 as the “Year I heard the song.”, thanks to Demi really making it shine.

So there ya’ go.  The actual soundtrack has a 2nd album with songs that didn’t make the cut, and lots of instrumentals.  But I think there’s plenty to gift our kids with right there.  In fact, there was so much packed into these songs, they didn’t want to overwhelm the audience by adding more to the significant and powerful ending moments of the movie.

Ps. If you missed it, this post is primarily a counter-balance for the one from a few days ago…