Posted in Different Moments

like father like daughter…

I over-analyze things.  I used to blame it simply on the fact that “I’m a guy”, and we love being right all the time, and being critical about things that we hear.  But my daughter firmly put me in my place a couple days ago, and made me realize I may be passing on more to my daughters than I realized.  🙂  It was pretty cute, really, and I think I’m okay with the results so far.

We were sitting at the breakfast table, talking about the Bible verse our whole church is memorizing this week.  I’m thankful for the giant chalk board my wife Sarah acquired for just such purposes.  Sidenote: I’m even more thankful to be blessed by a wife/mother of our children who sees a chalkboard as a functional piece of dining room decor.  What would be better, a generic painting of flowers and a french cafe….or a chalkboard to teach our kids scripture during the everyday moments? 🙂  Take that, Martha Stewart.  I love my wife.

Back to the story:  This weeks’ verse is incredibly easy: “Pray Continually” from 1 Thessalonions 5:17.  I’m pretty sure we’ve got it all memorized.  The difficulty comes in explaining what the word “continually” means to a 5 year old and 3 year old.  So I talked a bit with them about breathing.  We breathe continually, often forgetting that we’re breathing.  It’s not something we’re always aware is happening, but we are always breathing in (deep breath), and breathing out (deep breath out).  I sat back and smiled at how clever I was, watching my girls take deep breaths, and making the connection.  Until Addie finally spoke up:

“Daaaad, we don’t always breathe.  You can NOT breathe when you go underwater.  That would not work.”

I was surprised at her response, and nodded. “Well, you’re right Addie, that would definitely not be good.  But we do breathe most of the time, right?  So you can see how God wants us to be praying all the time, so it becomes part of who we are?”

She was still thinking. “Well, I guess if you had a snorkel, you could keep breathing.  Then you wouldn’t have to hold your breath.” She closed her eyes and nodded to herself, as if she’d not only proved me wrong, but fixed my statement all in one conversation.

Whoa.

And she’s only 5.  Look out world, my daughter is coming, and she’s listening to every word you say. 🙂

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Settin’ the table…

I realize that beyond a very wordy “intro”, I’ve not put much about my book out there.  That a parent might vaguely “grow” from reading it, is only a small version of the hope I have.  I wrote the book because I wanted to read a book like it.  Since then, God continues to challenge me as I re-read portions of it myself.  For a more specific picture of the topics/areas the book talks about, here’s the table of contents:

Intro

Chapter One: The Obvious Changes
Time Changes
Resource Changes
Routine Changes

Chapter Two:What is Love?
– Understanding of Love – major changes
Experiencing pure/genuine love
When action becomes word…:)

Chapter Three: Hello, I’m __________.
– Major changes impact every relationship
– For Their Sake – the importance of relational maintenance
– Saying “no” in order to say “yes”

Chapter Four: But what will ____ think?
– Freedom from others’ expectations
– Freedom from self-pressure

Chapter Five: Gasp.
– The amazing forgiving ability of infants/toddlers
– Forgiving each other as well
– When there’s nothing to forgive

Chapter Six: Ahh, Naptime
– Naptime struggles
– Recapturing the gift of sabbath
– Sleep – the beginning of the day.

Chapter Seven: Get Out of Bed!
– Motivation to seize the day
– Motivation to dance aimlessly 🙂

Chapter Eight: Beautiful Mystery

Chapter Nine: The Power of Words
– Speaking prophetically into your child’s life
– Speaking prophetically into your world
– Learning a new language

Chapter Ten: Unlimited Potential
– How you can live vicariously through your children 🙂
– Active waiting.
– A fresh pack of playdough

Chapter Eleven: Humility
– You’ve never done this before.
– You’re probably not doing something right.
– Releasing the Rope

Chapter Twelve: Faith
– A Prophetic, Priestly, Position of Authority
– Working out, Spiritually
– Pray Continually

Chapter Thirteen: Pro-Creation
– Ratatouille was right
– More than “makin’ babies”
– On making all things new

Posted in Different Thoughts

mourning the opportunity…

With “9/11” coming up this weekend, memorial services and commemorative happenings are all over the place.  My kids are young enough that a simple “Well hun, 10 years ago a few people did a very bad thing, and it hurt a lot of other people.” will suffice.  But not too far from now, my children will be asking more and more about the things they see happening in the world around them.  I pray my children will always experience disaster of this magnitude through the lens of “how we can serve/love those who endured it”, but I realize that the longer we live, the greater the chance that something like this may happen in our neighborhood.

In my own life, I’m thankful to have had opportunities to serve in places of devastation.  I remember Spring Break of 2002, when I was able to travel with some BURPO (Christian version of a frat, don’t ask 🙂  ) guys to NYC.  We served at a food pantry, volunteered in some children’s ministries, did some repairs/renovations at a Church that has since been torn down for a hotel (eminent domain), and prayed with people walking near Ground Zero.  We felt like we were able to serve a small group of people in a way that mattered.

More recently, I was able to take a group of 23 to Joplin, MO, where we helped with several clean-up/rebuilding projects.  Sweating more than I knew was possible, we helped remove debris from collapsed homes, and nearby fields.  It was tough work, as many found wedding pictures, notes between friends, and heirloom-type items.  Over 7,000 homes were destroyed completely.  To imagine something of that magnitude hitting our own city, definitely makes you cuddle a little closer to your 2 year old the next week.  Even as the flood waters invaded the East Coast, our daughters were wide-eyed over the videos of people with basements full of mud.

As parents, and as Christians, we don’t want to “glaze over” the fact that these are very traumatic and horrible happenings.  We live in a world that is broken, and where humans and creation itself have gone so far from how God set things long ago – that these things continue to happen.  As modern evangelicals, we’re uncomfortable with suffering that seems without purpose.  We toss out phrases like “Well, God has a purpose for this.”, usually in the wrong places and times.  We jump to the “hope” found in the large numbers of volunteers, and highlight the incredible places and times where light is shining in the darkness…while many still mourn the losses and sufferings of those yet to bury.

But what about a God who weeps with us?  A God who never intended these natural or man-made disasters?  A God who is heart-broken over the condition of his creation, and is acting tangibly to change/restore things?

To be authentic as a follower of God, and a parent of our children, seems to call us to two responses at once.  To hold simultaneously the grieving heart of one who mourns the condition of creation; and the supernatural Hope that God has begun something new in Jesus Christ that is continuing unto completion with the restoration/making new of all things.

To put it simply – to be people who are “mourning the opportunity”.

We put our arms around those who suffer, offering aid and prayers of lament.  It may be us next time.  But we are also deep wells of hope, sourced not in ourselves or any desire to make things “happier”, but in the Love of God and His desire to use what has happened.  He may not have caused it to happen with a purpose, but God can definitely offer his redemptive purposes to anything that has happened.  There is beauty, and the Kingdom is coming – “on earth as it is in Heaven”.  May we have the patience and wisdom to know when each response is necessary, and be praying for all of those around the world in need.

If we raise our children to be mission-ally connected with a world that is constantly experiencing suffering (famine, drought, war, disasters, disease), perhaps it will help when these things happen a little closer to home

I just realized this post may seem disjointed or random.  I suppose that’s what happens when you try to write during naptime. 🙂  Looking forward to a great weekend with the family…