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praying for peace.

We’re moving into a new stage of our adoption, that of being approved by the US Government.  The State has given it’s thumbs up, and from what we’ve heard it shouldn’t be any problem, approval-wise, from here.  The difficult part now will be the fund-raising, the information/document gathering, and the waiting.  As I’ve said already, I believe the “waiting” is not inactive, but a precious and valuable part of the entire journey.  So I’ve been trying to use this time to learn more about where our daughter is coming from, and how to be in prayer for her.

That’s hard.

Right now, in the land my daughter lives, there is much brokenness.  As if living in one of the most densely populated and poverty-stricken countries in the world wasn’t enough, there’s more.  A war is going on.  Children are being recruited as soldiers.  Civilians fear walking certain streets, for fear of being forcibly recruited or killed.  Women are being raped.  The scarcity of food, drinking water, etc….is made even more scarce by the fear that you may not survive the trip.  I would talk more on the specifics, except there are blogs and search engines I’d rather not be connected to.  For more information on the DRC, check out my new page.

There has been a “ceasefire” for 4 weeks now, simply meaning there have been fewer deaths during these days.  But the rebels continue to recruit while the country’s army continues to make plans for how to “handle them”.  Soon, the ceasefire will most likely be broken or end, and who knows what will happen to the area.

As a small consolation – the area we will most likely go to pick up our daughter someday – is completely on the other side of the country.  But she may come from the war-torn region herself…and no matter what, will be obviously impacted by what is happening there right now.

Yet, here we are at the beginning of a new school year.  An amazing mom and teacher, over-loaded with love and desires to teach and be with her family.  A first-grader who is soaking up every bit of knowledge she can.  2 pre-schoolers racing each other to see who can learn next.  A father who tries to be a solid disciplinary “Principal”, but is probably a push-over.  A home filled with love, being shaped by God, and an empty space waiting for our daughter to come home.

And so, we are praying for peace.  Peace in the midst of waiting for our daughter to be brought home.   Peace for our family, as we try to explain to our daughters exactly what is happening in this adoption process, and how to pray for their sister.  Peace that our fund-raising efforts and grant-applications might actually be fruitful in time.

But there is a peace we want more than all of these.  It’s what the citizens, army, AND rebel forces and families of the DRC want more than any ceasefire.  It’s what I want for my daughters, grandchildren, and great-great grandkids someday as well:

“And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Look! God’s dwelling place is now among the people, and he will dwell with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” – Revelation 21:3-4

But until that time comes, may we find ourselves going out into the world and announcing Jesus Christ is Lord.  Not with guns and picket signs – but with acts of Love, Grace, and New Life.  If we are constantly people who are praying for peace, we may more naturally live in a way that helps bring it about…”on earth as it is in Heaven…”

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Not waiting…

At this point, we’re still waiting to hear back from the state  about our home-study.  It was quite a process of interviews, examining every minute detail of our lives: past, present, and future plans.  We collected documents and legal forms from every area, and now it’s all in the hands of someone who decides whether or not we will be “permitted” to adopt.

It’s a good reminder that I’m not great at waiting.

The expected wait time is between 2 days, and a month-ish.  It’s been a couple weeks already, and we continue to ask God for patience.  But God reminded me yesterday that I was missing out on a blessing the midst of it all.  Just as the Church calendar includes seasons of “Advent” (waiting) as a way to draw near to God – so these days and times of waiting can be embraced in transformative and life-bringing ways.

One of the many reasons we’ve chosen to adopt is to orient the identity of our family around depending on God in new ways.  Sure, waiting is rough.  Fund-raising will be difficult.  Traveling will be prayer-inducing for sure.  But it’s not about us writing the story, taking pictures, so that someday we can point it all out to our daughter and say, “Look, this is what we did out of love for you.”  Communicating love to her, and be involved in bringing hope to a part of the world that needs it….are definitely involved.  But there’s more.  Someday I hope to thank my daughter.  Because in pursuing her; in exercising our faith to depend on God, wait on God, and orient the identity of our family around God and the work of His Kingdom – she has contributed to God transforming all of us along with her.

And so…as we wait and pray together this week…we are not waiting for God’s work to begin…we are caught up in the midst of it already.

Which also means – we need to be raising funds to bring her home!!!  We’re selling these incredible t-shirts for only $20 each!!  If you’d like to support our adoption financially, and look great doing it – just e-mail me by clicking this link, and tell me your size!  The great news is, we’re not even going to limit your contribution!  If you’d like to order 10 shirts at $20 each…you totally can!!  If you only want one shirt, but want to give as if you’re buying 10 shirts….you totally can!!  E-mail us today!! 🙂
(sorry, I realize I totally went from prayerful, thought-provoking words….to a sales-y fund-raiser.  I promise, once the funds are raised, I probably won’t do it again.)

UPDATE: This post was previously written….but yesterday afternoon we officially heard from the State – we’ve been approved!!  Fundraising, here we come!!!!!! 🙂

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pokin’ turkeys…

When I was in high school, I worked summers at a camp called Youth Haven Ranch. For one entire summer, I was put in charge of taking care of/running the petting farm at the ranch. It was an interesting summer, for sure.

One thing I remember well, were our turkeys. We had a tom (appropriately named “Tom”), and two hens. Every other area of the petting barn had your normal variety large bars/doors that kids could climb on, reach through and pet the animals. Heck, they could and often did just climb on through to reach the animal they really wanted to pet.

But the poultry cage was different. It had the usual looking bars, but it was also covered from ceiling to floor with chicken wire. This was for obvious reasons…turkeys aren’t generally cuddly animals.

It never failed, no matter the age group, there would be several kids who saw the chicken wire as an invitation for fingers. They would poke and prod, especially close to the turkeys when possible. It was usually accompanied by a yell of some sort. “Hey turkey turkey turkey!” “(turkey noises that neither sounded turkey-ish, or very healthy)”, “come and get it turkey!!”

No matter how regularly these kids poked their fingers through at the turkeys yelling loudly, it would always come as a complete surprise and alarm when one of them pecked with lightning speed at whatever finger, or close standing person they could get.

Then the 8 year old boy, who seconds earlier was master over the turkeys, looks up at you and you can tell he’s trying not to cry. He wants sympathy. He wants you to punish the bad mis-behaving turkey.

And all I could usually come up with was, “What did you expect?”

I’m pretty sure God has a bit more compassion on us when we finally look to him instead of whatever cage we’ve been poking at. But still – why do we so often seem entertained or interested in getting the attention of these things that we know have no desire but to peck our fingers off? 🙂